When I talk about quieting the outside noise, I’m not talking about the outside traffic noise. Unless that noise irritates you, then yes you have to learn how to ignore that because we want to try to get rid of all those reactive behaviors. Getting irritated is a reactive behavior. Anger is a reactive behavior. We want to start to control those things because in life, it’s the only thing we can control. We can’t control that there’s traffic, but we can control the fact that we’re not gonna get angry in traffic and let that set us off for the rest of the day.
Ignoring the outside noise comes from the people that you are surrounded by. So in the situation of when Hurricane Sandy happened, I was doing all this good work and the people around me were speaking so poorly and negative. I had to shut down that outside noise. I had to ignore it. Some of us are so influenced by the people around us that we start to listen and then we stop doing what we’re supposed to be doing because we’re focused on what everybody else is saying.
For some of you, you might be on the verge of wanting to start a business or going out on your own and doing something really special, but you have your husband, mother, or your best friend telling you, “No, you shouldn’t do that,” or, “No, you’re not good enough,” or, “There are so many people out there that are doing the same thing as you and who needs that business?” You have to shut all that down. You have to know that the information of what you’re trying to accomplish has been stored in you before you even came here. If you don’t take that leap forward, you are not going to accomplish what you’re supposed to accomplish here. You really need to quiet the outsiders and know that nobody is on your path. We are all here as individuals.
Even with my children, I try and not instill my stuff onto them. When we’re growing up, I’m sure some of you reading can attest to this that, it is your parent’s life that you’re living right now. I did that in my 20’s. I went to a college that my parents wanted me to go to. I was a business management major because my parents wanted me to be there and because of that, I ended up having a nervous breakdown. I needed to drop out of college for a semester because I wasn’t living my true passion and I wasn’t living for me. I was living by the opinions of other people. Now in my business, and in my life, and everything that I try to accomplish, I happen to have a partner who’s very aligned with me, but he’s living his own purpose. So I only take his opinion so far. I don’t tell my business to everybody. I keep that stuff really close in because misery loves company. Most people do not want to see you succeed.
You really have to hone in on your practice. You have to start a meditation practice, or find yourself a coach, an acupuncturist, a therapist, a social worker, someone who is really far removed and someone who can listen to you and give you neutral feedback. You don’t need the opinions of others. You don’t need to listen to the judgments of others. You need to tune in and know what you’re doing is right and know that what you’re doing is going to go out there and impact the world. Focus on ignoring the outside noise. Shut that down and allow your inner thoughts to come through and connect to that intuitiveness inside of you.
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